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    An Affair Of The Heart

    By Jeri Maier & Peter Wehr

    QUESTION Dear Jeri: Can you love more than one person at the same time? I have known someone for a while but he is very aloofed and does not want to commit. He is a gentleman and is a very loving person and always treats me very well when we are together which is not very often. In the last few months, I have met someone else and have fallen madly in love with him. I know for sure that he is not serious either, but I am trying to let my heart runs my life for the time being. I will, in time, wisen up and learn to accept this real life dilemma and will probably move on and forget them both.... I do feel guilty that I do love them both. Is it wrong to love more than one person at the same time? Lost In Love. ANSWER Dear Lost.. You did not say how long you been with your #1 and why you are still with him if you have been with him for a long time without getting all your due treatments of respect from him. Your situaion with #2 is not much better than your #1 but you admitted that are madly in love with him. I believe that the reason is that he is still new and you have not fully accept that you are mis-treated by him also, yet! It is perfectly fine to let your heart runs your life instead of listening to your mind or your head. Please just be careful and DON"T ever LET your heart ruin your life! It is not unusual for human to love more than one person at the same time. As loving beings with tender hearts, We have a capacity to love unconditionally and not be judgemental even about oneself. We have our conscious awareness and if your heart tells you that you love them both at the same time... Then you should let it be.. or if you are concern then may be your conscious is telling you something else and you should let your head or your mind examines your heart?? LOL... By the way, most men will tell you that they are capable of loving two women at the same time. Most of the time, they will say that they love each woman for a different reason. If you fully accept the truth that you are in love with both men and not being loved in return from both but you keep go on loving them with this knowledge. If you acknowledged and accepted this fact from the beginning and it is not hurtful or harming you then I am sure you will justity your action and 'Just Let it be'. The only problems I can see is that if you are sleeping with both of them at the same time. You did not indicate whether that is indeed, the situation. I will not and can not judge you for what you are doing. You are the one who will have to live with yourself. If you can accept yourself, then it is your own choice, and if you can live with your conscious then you must also know that you will have to live with any unexpected consequences later. Are you willing to accept the truth or the pain that you could be inflicting or imposing on yourself or any one or both of these men? Do you care for them as well. DO you really love them or is it just LUST? Be honest and answer the questions... All of the answers are in your heart !!! Best wishes, -Jeri Peace, Love and Light
    QUESTION Hi Jeri: Last year, I dated someone for a few months. He is much younger and he was very uneasy about our 'may-december' relationships. Finally he told me that I was coming on too strong and he was not able to return his love as I would wished. He then decided to break up with me and I was very devastrated for a while. Finally, after a while, I learned to accept it and completely gotten over him in time. I also found out that he met someone else as he acknowledged her to all his friends that she was his 'NEW' girlfriend. This event happened about 9 months ago. A few weeks ago, I learned from someone that he broke up with his girlfriend. He also asked about me and asked me to write to him; which I did as a friendly gesture. Now, he wrote back to me and told me that he wants to get together with me. What should I tell him. I really, completely am so over him and have no desire to be a 'couple' again. I also have a strong feeling that I am going to be just one of his stepping stones again! Belinda M.
    ANSWER Dear Belinda: Be brave and tell him the truth now! Tell him exactly as you stated that you only want to be his friend and not a 'couple' or his 'stepping stone' again. When the 'RIGHT' man comes along. You WILL have a better state of mind with much stronger spirit and emotion. You will be free to be with a man who loves you and not be an emotional wreck because you are with this 'old' flame that is only wants to use you! IF You are SURE that it is really that what he wants to do. Have you ever listen to Madonna's song, The Power Of Good-Bye? There's deeper meaning in the lyric of the song which is very sad but, a powerful song altogether. Best wishes.. -Jeri Peace, Love and light ...
    QUESTION I found out my girlfriend had been seeing other people, and i'm hurting so badly I don't know what to do, I can't sleep, can't eat, she thinks i was spying on her to find out, but it was through a friend. I really love her very much, and she always said she loved me very much too. We always have such a nice time when we're together, happy all day and night, I don't understand what I can do. I don't feel like even living anymore, please help me if you can. Thank you, *Name witheld
    HER ANSWER Dear *Name My prayers are with you and my spirit is embracing your heavy heart .... Bless your heart! It is not easy to be in that situation. ~~ Ofcourse you can not eat or sleep!! How can you? You are in shock~ Dear Jay, all things happened for a reason. One of the door is shutting behind you but all is not lost another door will open and you will heal and learn to love again. In the mean time.. Think of the positive things, all the good time and all the love that you have between each other. Do you love her so much that you are willing to start over? Is she willing to stop doing what she is doing and start over? Are you willing to forgive her and forget? Perhaps you need to see a counselor who can help you. If you decide to get back together, then both of you need to see the counselor together. It is good that your heart is open and you are willing to let your sadness out ... It is the first process, a part of healing.... Don't keep in all inside ..... There are people of loving souls who will help you... That's what we all are here for .. TO help others... That's one of the purposes of life and living... Please write again.. Email me.. if you wish... You need a BIG giant HUGS* -Jeri Peace, Love and Light
    HIS ANSWER You can't live your life in her shadows. A relationship has to be built on mutual trust and respect. Above all, both of you must be able to know that your relationship and the foundation of your love is based on honesty. We can see a role reversal going on now between men and women in today's world. No matter what, it is still the same basic principle for a good relationship to blossom and last.
    QUESTION every body wants to know if love on line is true.HOW? WHEN? Is it possible to love without knowing every thing about your lover?. anonymous
    QUESTION how do you know if someone really loves you? anonymous
    ANSWER Dear anonymous and friends, Please check on this page Peace, Love and Light, -Jeri Peace, Love and Light

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